Having returned to the Catholic Church, I want to share my passion about God and all I didn't know that I didn't know about the Catholic Faith the first time around. This is a Catholic centered blog about the faith, music, movies, books (especially fantasy), writing, and Catholic homeschooling in California.
Sunday, September 18, 2011
Wanting a Baby VS. Wanting to be a Parent
Sorry, I'm ranting today. Maybe it's a mommy hormone thing.
Have you or someone you known uttered the sentence, "I want a baby"?
I've said it.
What did I mean by that statement?
Did I mean that I desire to carry a baby in my womb even through discomfort, pain, or danger to myself? What if "too many" babies were growing in there? Would I get rid of one or more because I only want one?
Aggie Catholics recently posted a video with Fr. Barron talking about aborting one twin and keeping the other. You might want to take a look/listen.
What about financial hardship or inconvenience? When I said I wanted a baby, did I mean I wanted to nurture my child if she were crippled, sick, or deformed or would I only care about her if she were "perfect"?
Did I mean I wanted to mother her through long nights of illness or crying, days of exhaustion, but also of happiness, play, and growth--watching her develop from babyhood to talking and walking, or did I want to pass her off to a paid employee as soon as possible?
When I said I wanted a baby, did I mean I wanted to be a parent, or did I mean I wanted a possession to make me feel good?
Parenthood is the most exhausting, frustrating, exhilarating, fulfilling adventure.
You who are spiritual parents understand clearly what I mean when I say that our children don't belong to us, but to God. As spiritual parents you pray for your children, be they children or adults, and maybe guide them, but you are always aware that they are not yours, but God's. Physical parents often forget that our children are not ours. We have the privilege to be stewards or guardians, but not the right of ownership. Just a thought.
I warned you I was on a rant. ;)
*All photos are of my own family. Copyright blah blah blah :P